All you have is right now.
I was blessed this weekend to be able to have a long conversation with my Dad up at our family cabin. We talked about work, finances, life, and love. I have always enjoyed our conversations.
One thing that really struck me that we talked about was all we really have is right now. Meaning you only have this present moment, one after another. The past and the future do not really exist. They are moments that have past or that are yet to come. I think we have lost sight of this. I know that I tend to worry about the future, finances, health, career, and everything else. I know that there are a lot of people out there that focus so much on the past. They play the “what if” game. What if I had just got that job, what if I made a mistake, what if I get sick, what if I have (insert a sickness here) etc. or they focus on a tragic event that happened and they let it eat at them.
Today is a perfect example for me. I could look at today and think about the bills that I have coming due, I could think about the terrible panic attacks I have been having and sit and worry about when the next one will strike, I could stress about my job and getting it to make me more money, but I am working on focusing on the current moment. So today I am blessed to wake up next to my extremely loving and supportive girlfriend, I am healthy, I do not have to go to a “job” and my loving 3 legged dog is chilling right at my feet. I know my money will come. I know life won’t be perfect, but right now today is a great day. I am not going to keep producing things to stress about.
Embrace the right now because it is really all we have. Listen to people talk. Tell your girl you love her. Slow down. Stop stressing about the future. You made it this far! You are doing a good job. There is power in getting your mind and thoughts under control. Make sure they line up with what you want to accomplish.
I have a lot of work to do, but I really got to see how my thoughts are not lining up with my life. I need to get them in line. Do you?
Worrying about something happening does not stop it from happening, it just keep you from enjoying the present moment.
-RJK
#4- Take a RV trip.
Safe to say this one is more then checked off! As of today we have driven 5,000 miles and have been to 16 states.
Let me back up. This began as a pipe dream many years ago for me. I have always wanted to just pack up my shit, buy an RV, and just go for a little while, meet new people, get away from the normal, and mostly do something that most people wouldn’t. Throughout the years I have talked to many of my friends about this idea. I was so passionate about it and really thought it would happen a few years ago. Unfortunately it never came together. Along came my buddy Brett AKA my business partner. He was a like minded guy. Back it November when I was having my usual 9-5 breakdown I sent him a text of an idea. Here is a picture of the first text.
The idea kind of steamrolled from there. We figured we could do it as an entrepreneurial experiment. Basically take our work on the road and meet and encourage people, well trying to make some money too. So we bought an RV and left! Here is the day we became owners!
We have definitely encouraged some people. Money ehhhh we are getting there, but who cares! I have traveled all over! Done some amazing stuff!!!!
We sold some apparel in Savannah, GA.
We fished, snorkeled, chased alligators in Key Largo, FL.
We climbed through a cave to get to a enclosed waterfall in Eden Falls, Ar.
Had some Popeye’s shrimp in Louisiana.
Spent time with brother, sis in law, 2 incredible nieces and my super supportive girlfriend in Colorado.
Climbed to Delicate Arch in Moab, UT.
We have done a lot more then that, but I won’t bore you with all the details
The beauty of this whole thing is that 1. It crossed of one of my goals in a major way. 2. It has shown me so many things that I took for granted, or that I cared to much about. 3. That there is so much to see right here in the U.S. so many people feel like they need to cross oceans to see amazing things. Not true.
We also have made some sales along the way! Wanna help us out? Buy something!
http://www.etsy.com/shop/tipitdesigns
I feel blessed to have this opportunity. I love knowing that I have seen a lot of this country. We are headed to California after we take care of some business in Salt Lake City, UT. After California we are hoping to hit Oregon, Washington, Idaho, Wyoming, the Dakotas and then back home for July Michigan Summer! Please follow along. Thank you for all of the support.
You have One Life- Get going!!!!
RJK
IG: ryanjameskilpatrick
“Someday”
First I wanted to tell you that I got goal number 12 and 14 taken out!!!!!
#12 – Stand up on a surf board- I went to Hawaii on February 25th- March 7th. Tickets were $852 round trip and we stayed on 2 different islands and flew between them for about $600, but that is another story. I stood up on the first wave I tried in Waikiki beach! It was so fun and a great experience. Rented the board for $18 for the day! Totally worth it.
#14 – Spearfishing- This was amazing! I did it on Kauai, Hawaii. Used a Hawaiian sling and a spear gun! I shot 3 with the gun and 2 with the sling. I did not get any video unfortunately. The water was really rough and I did not want to lose my Go Pro. Amazing experience. We also got to swim with some turtles on Oahu. I have included a picture.
I wanted this post to encourage you to watch how you use the word -Someday-. I have just started this traveling entrepreneur gig and it has already inspired me so much.
We tend to use the word someday to allow ourselves to deal with the fact that we are not doing what we want or that we are putting our lives on hold to pursue the things that we are told we should be doing, instead of the things that we want to be doing.
Stop doing that! If you want to be in school, if you want to do the job you are doing…Great! Keep doing it!, but if you hate it, if you feel like it is not what you want to be doing, or if you feel that you want to get away for awhile. Stop saying “Someday I will change my life.” Go do it! Do not let the “I will do it someday” turn into the “I wish I would have done that”.
We have met so many people already on this journey. When we are asked about what brings us to the Keys, Savannah, Hawaii, or anywhere else. We give them a little bit of our story- ” We are traveling entrepreneurs that can work from our RV and are traveling the US to get our travel bug taken care of”. So many people say “Man I wish I would have done that at your age”
I do not want to make it sound like I have it all figured out or that we are making a ton of money ( we aren’t) but it feels good to know this is exactly where I want to be.
I am a product of a broken home, I have the most amazing parents, but I want to make sure that when I get married it is with 100% commitment, dedication and it is just one time. I feel like I owe it to my future wife, kids, and to my current girlfriend to explore this side of me. I want to answer all the questions and the restlessness that I have so when that time does come to be a dad and a husband I do not have any “I wish I would haves” but instead I feel like it is exactly where I should be. The truth is I should have done this part of my life 5 years ago. I used “Someday” to keep pushing it off and allowed money to keep me lazy.
So in closing do not let a “Someday” become a “I should have”. Stop talking about it and do it! Fail! Succeed! Who cares but get of your ass and DO SOMETHING! Better to fail at what you love then succeed at what you hate. Do not let fear of the unknown keep you in a place you are not happy with.
“Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.”- Will Smith
Have Less. Do More.
If you woke up this morning and decided you wanted a different life, career, or maybe you felt it was put in your heart to do some volunteering in a different country, how long would it take you to be able to make a switch?
I feel as a nation we are always trying to keep up with the person next to us. I especially feel that way for my generation. We are constantly shown by ads, TV, radio, and social media that we do not have enough, or that there is something or someone out there that is better then you. Today is Valentines day. It seems like there is 387 of the best spouses, boyfriends, girlfriends, and lovers out there today. Everything is easy for a day. It is easy to make everything seem great when you get to select what people get to see. Do not compare your life to someone else’s through social media.
We have to be conscious that we do not spend ourselves into a life we do not want. We also have to be aware that a few dumb decisions can send you down a path that you did not want to take. I am talking from experience here. They could write a book on bad decisions on parts of my life. I am blessed that none of them sent me down a path I could not get off of.
Meet John. He just graduated college, he is single and got a job making $45,000 a year! Not bad right? He takes home about $2,500 a month and he only has to worry about himself. So John decides that the car that got him through college is no longer good enough. I mean he is a college grad making great money! So he gets himself a 2 door coupe with a payment of $450. No big deal he takes home $2500. Well his other buddies who just graduated are buying houses right away. The bank has a no money down option and the interest rate is only 5.25%. He can afford $1,300 payment a month! He knows even with the car he has and his monthly bills he is only spending $2,200. He still has $300 extra a month! However if he is going to keep up with his buddies, he needs to go out, buy cool stuff, and get a credit card for anything he cannot afford. Today John woke up and realized he hated his job or let say today he accidentally got someone pregnant, or he gets fired. Now what?
I had a story much like Johns. It was a big hill getting out of it. I was fortunate that I learned from these mistakes early and was able to turn things around. We tend to spend ourselves into a prison in a sense. Now for every John there is a Peter that loves it and it works out for him. This does not apply to everyone.
I have seen a lot of my friends ( my self included) make 1 of 2 mistakes. They either spend themselves into a life that they do not like or they end up starting a family way to early and lose out on the life they desired.
When you make a choice to be a little different. When you decide to stay home from the bars and save that money. When you decide that you want to wait to have kids til you are 100% sure. You start to realize with less stuff, with less bills, with less responsibility it allows you to do more. There is power in that. Yes you may not have the best house, Yes Paul down the street has a nicer car then you, but that is THEIR life. Do not compare it to yours. It is a waste of time. When you have the freedom to live the exact life that you want it is a great feeling.
So today I would encourage you to spend a little less on “stuff”. Spend it on experiences.
So if you have kids, turn that TV off and take them sledding. If you have a girlfriend yes she will love those roses, but she would also love your time, or a great adventure. One of the top 5 regrets for people on their death beds is not doing more stuff when they had time. No one wishes they watched more TV or checked in on Facebook more.
HAVE LESS DO MORE!
RJK
Run away!
Let me take you back to that magical moment when they announced your name and you walked out on to the podium and shook your principals hand. HOLY COW YOU GRADUATED! Then comes the Open House. I hated this part. Why you ask? Because of this question- “So what are you going to do now?” I had no idea what I wanted to do after high school! I knew the things that I loved- Guns, Girls, Cars, Adventure, but how could I make money at any of those things? (legally) So I did what I thought was the only good option at the time. I went to college. A local college. I did this so I could tell people I was going to college. I did this because it is what I thought you were suppose to do, what society expected me to do. I unfortunately think this is what a lot of teenagers do when they do not have a career path to follow. I suggest another option. An option that I would have told my 18 year old self to take. Run away!
Not Huckleberry Finn style. I am just suggesting that you leave your comfortable surroundings, your friends, family and go discover who you are without the walls of familiarity. Go to college in a different state, get a work visa and go to Australia, or move to grandma’s in Florida and work for the summer and save your money so when they day comes that you discover your calling you do not have to go into a ton of debt to get your education.
If you decide to postpone college I do think that it is important to make a conscious decision to never stop learning. So many people never read a single book after high school. If you decide that college is not right for you or that you want to take some time and travel, or try to find out what your passion is. Great! Just do not use it as an excuse to stop learning.
I suggest this because of my life lesson. I was 18 and went to college for 2 years. I was working 40 hours a week and doing a class load of 12-16 hours. Thankfully I paid for all my schooling with cash so I do not have any debt from it. I was working for a local restaurant as a cook. After a few years I got promoted to Manager. I was going to make $32,000 a year!!! I know what you are thinking. “That is not a lot” but when you are 20 and making that kind of money you feel like Bill Gates. I got comfortable. I left college and put my energy into management. I left the local place and went to a corporate chain of restaurants and started making $42,000! Baller!!!!! It was a shitty day when I woke up and realized I hated working in restaurants and had no desire to ever to it again. Thankfully now I am doing something I love and the money I have from those jobs allowed me to comfortably walk away from a steady paycheck, but I tell you this story to show you that it is easy to get comfortable in a life that you do not necessarily love, especially when there is money involved. Now imagine if I had gotten married and had kids during this time?! It would have been a 1000x harder to make the switch.
So before you get comfortable in a life. Take the time to make sure it is the one you want and do not be afraid to run away. Even if it is for only a small time. You will learn a lot about yourself.
I am about to take my turn “running away” we are taking our business on the road. We have a RV that we are going to use to travel all over the US. After we get back from Hawaii of course. I am excited to sell some amazing apparel and to network with and meet like minded entrepreneurs. Looking forward to sharing it with you.
Never be afraid to make a big change in your life. It is better to make mistakes of ambition then sloth.
You have ONE LIFE. Get going!
RJK
My new job and being inspired.
“So what do you do?”
Who gets this question all the time? At parties, at the bar, at family reunions, or on those awkward first dates.
This one is now hard for me to answer, but I have been getting it a lot lately for obvious reasons. So here is my best quick synopsis on what I am “doing”.
I am now a 50/50 partner in 2 start up companies. Tipit Designs and One Life.
Tipit Designs-
A few years ago my business partner Brett Durkee made a light up Christmas sweater for himself and his girlfriend. They wore them out and about to Christmas parties. A few people wondered where they could get one. So Brett made a few for friends and found that there was a lot of people who were interested in them. Who knew!? So he made a few different designs and put them on Etsy.com check them out!
http://www.etsy.com/shop/TipitDesigns?ref=shop_sugg
They sold like crazy! He was swamped! I got to watch one of my best friends transition from a working man to a self employed marketing genius! I come from a restaurant management background and saw some areas where he could streamline his production. So I would give him tips and help him here and there while I worked my job. We decided last year that I would help him this last Christmas season. So we started Tipit Designs LLC back in March to make it official. He needed a full time partner and because of my fear of leaving a fulltime paycheck I did not come through on my end this Christmas season. I helped when I could, but not a lot. This frustrated me because I have always been the guy that told people to chase their dreams without fear of failure. Well as you know now I have quit my job and we are going to be making all kinds of apparel together. So keep checking us out!
One Life- has a DBA(doing business as) but as of now it is more of a vision for the both of us. We think that there is a lot of people out there that were just like us. Working a job to collect a paycheck. Uninspired, frustrated, and have bigger dreams that they are hesitant to chase. We want to be the catalyst that gets them going. We figure if we go and chase our wildest and craziest ambitions it might just inspire someone else too as well. Now before you go and get mad at me for making a “normal” job out to be a bad thing, that is not what I am saying at all. My brother works a 9-5 job and he is great at it! It inspires him, it allows him to provide for his wife and 2 amazing daughters and it makes him feel like his is doing something that will allow him to leave a legacy. It fits him. At this point in my life a desk job does not fit me. It is important to work where you love it, where you are inspired, and feel like you are giving back.
So basically we bought a 30 ft. RV and we have a “job” that allows us to be mobile now. We want to just start traveling, meet people, work hard, and stay inspired. We feel the business end of One Life will become clearer to us as we get out there. We want to keep our mind in entrepreneurial mode and see what we can discover when we put ourselves in new locations with new people!
We got this message from a friend last night on Facebook-
“I thought you two crazy kids should know, you’ve seriously inspired me. I don’t have a formal list written, but I just made a big step towards a crazy dream, and connected with some PT’s who live in the Netherlands. Looking at couch surfing abroad post-graduation. So, thank you, for the inspiration.”
I was more inspired and felt more fulfilled from this one comment then I did in 2 years at my old job.
I was inspired to get going by a simple email from my brother. It only takes one time, one moment, to change the direction of your life. For good or for bad.
I hope this helps clear it up a little. Thank you for reading.
RJK
Want to get to know someone? Look at their goal list.
I have now received 11 goal list. Thank you for all of those that took the time. I never would have imagined the inspirational power of reading someone else’s goal list.
I had a very inspirational phone call this morning with my dad. We talked about the things that I am doing now that I am self employed. I have been using a lot of my time to read about goals and goal setting. I had 3 things I wanted to share with you.
– First- I naturally received a majority of my goal list from friends and family. I really got to know them on a completely different level just by reading what they aspire too. I truly realized how blessed I am to have such like minded and kind hearted people around me. I got to know them on such a personal level. You never really get to know someone on that level with day to day talk. I got to learn what little things mattered to them, what small things made them itch, and learned about the things that they wanted to accomplish. Do you know those things about your closes friend? My Aunt sent me her goal list and I was so inspired by the time and passion she put into it. It was way better then mine! and I got to know her on such a different level. I loved it! Take the time to get to know someone’s life goals. It shows you a lot about their life and desires.
“It is very hard to fail completely if you aim high enough”- Your list taught me to never be afraid to aim high! Thank you all again for taking the time.
– Secondly- In my studies I am learning that it is important not to look at your goals as a success/failure. I have made many list and there are still things that I need to do from years past. Do not think that just because you fail one that you failed. I tried to quit pop for a year and I made it 5 months, but those 5 months were better then never trying at all. When you set a goal like “work out every day” or “No beer for a year” one bad day could “ruin” that goal. Stay focused on the positive. I mean a cold Corona with lime on a hot day is amazing. Working out 285 of the 365 days a year is better then nothing at all. Simply doing more in a year then you would have otherwise is a accomplishment in itself.
– Lastly- Post your goals! Put them on your mirror, bedroom door, or anywhere were you will see them. I know I have said this before, but I think it is important!
If you made a list and did not send it to me. Please send it to ryan40in14@gmail.com . Again thank you for all the inspiration. I enjoyed getting to know you all on a different level.
RJK
I quit my job today.
24. *******- Cannot put this one out yet. It is a secret. Has to do with a few other goals.
24. Was quit my job.
Although this technically crosses off a few other goals I am just going to use it for this one. Make it a little harder on myself.
I could not put this one up on my goal list because obviously I am friends with people I work with. However this had been a goal of mine since last year. I was a Sales Consultant for a RV company here in Grand Rapids. It was a great company to work for. Great bosses, good insurance, and great money. However the hours did not fit my lifestyle and I was not getting fulfillment from what I was doing. I remember sitting in a meeting and my boss told me that the company was now going to be open longer hours, but we were going to be paid the same amount. He said “This is the way it is going to be, if you do not like it then there are other options out there”. Meaning if we did not like it find another job. That frustrated me and drove me even more to making #24 a reality. I have always been the guy that preached “Do what you love” or “If you do not like it quit!” however this is a lot easier said then done! I mean when you quit a job you are consciously walking away from money, security, and consistency. Who does that?!?!
The timing for me to take this gamble is great. I am not married, I do not have kids, and my bills are small. This was always something I saw myself doing, but to be completely honest, never really had the strength to do it. Last month I sent an email to my older brother. I was bitching about how slow work was and hating my work life. This may come as a surprise to you, but no one buys an RV when there is 6 inches of snow on the ground. I know SHOCKING! His reply was simple “Stop talking about doing stuff and start doing stuff” it really resonated with me. Life is short I better get going! So I am.
I wrote the company a resignation email. (This is the only way to contact all my bosses at the same time) I filmed myself sending it in. I can share that with you if you would like. Two hours later I got an email. This is what it said.
-“Ok. Meet me tomorrow at 8 a.m. to turn over your keys and take home any personal stuff. No need for the 2 weeks. Thanks for working hard while you were with us and good luck in the future.”
I bet a lot of people that went through this kind of big moment in their life would say stuff like “It was a great feeling” or “A weight was lifted off of my shoulders”. Well I had a panic attack. Full blown. Then I could not sleep all night. This was Thursday night. Today is Sunday and it feels great! I spent yesterday with my girl watching football. I use to work 9-5 on Saturdays. I am really realizing how my mind was so focused on work, and the stress of being unhappy there. This whole weekend I kept thinking about how I had to go back to my “job” on Monday even though I did not have too. I did a couple errands for my new business and I kept thinking “Ok I have to get this done quick because I have to work tomorrow”. I am surprised at how long it is taking my mind to realize that I no longer have to go there, that I no longer have to stress about sitting around for 8 out of the 9 hours a day. It is now on me to make things happen, to make my life a success, and to push myself to stay focused and get things done. I am so excited for this next phase.
Now before you start thinking that I just quit my job to watch football (which sounds awesome by the way) I want you to know that I had an opportunity lined up that I will be pursuing. I am getting into business with one of my best friends, and traveling company Brett. We have a few things up our sleeves, but I will update you on those later on. I am excited to be my own boss, to finally be able to say I am an entrepreneur and see what I can accomplish with an open mind and time on my side.
Here is a picture of Brett and I in Mexico. On a cruise we took for $252!!!
I am hoping that years from now I can tell this grand story of how I accomplished everything that I wanted too. However if I fail. If I fall flat on my face in 2 months. I do not care. At least at the end of the day I can say I tried, I took a huge risk, and I was not afraid to chase things that seemed bigger then me at the time. Failure is just a lesson for the next time. The real failure would have been never trying.
I appreciate all the support I have been given. Thank you for following along on what should be the most exciting time of my life!
RJK
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